Sometimes life happens, you can get overwhelmed by many occupations such as work, employment, family with your children, spouse, you can be very busy; the very definition of a very busy person. But with all that, you just woke up one day and still feel lonely, although you have a loving family with whom you might spend time with, a job where you interact with your colleagues. We all indeed need mates, friends with whom to laugh, share little secrets, as it happens. It is not everything you can share with your children, your colleagues, and in some cases with your partner or spouse. You happen to realize that apart from your closest family, you have no real friend. A woman needs a friend to do ”girly things” (girls’ day out, meet for a drink, cool off away from family life, pampering time,.), as does a man too. So how to make friends when you are older and have missed all the usual opportunities such as when being at school, college, universities, neighbours.
Well, you can still make friends, even being older. You need to know where to look. It is never late to make friends; here, we share some tips on how to make friends.
NEIGHBOURS: You can start making friends in your neighbourhood. Making friends with your immediate neighbours is a good idea. You will have a lot of opportunities to make a move. Start by greeting them, and grab any opportunity to engage a conversation. Try as much to make yourself useful, helping out whenever possible. Please invite them for a cup of tea. Try you might be surprised.
CHURCH: Attend your local church or any church for that matter. Most churches attendees are very welcoming. Don’t be shy, interact with people after the service, at the refreshment. You will luckily meet new persons and potentially make new friends.
SOCIAL MEDIA: Another great way to make new friends is online. Especially nowadays, you will be spoiled for choice. Different online social platforms such as Facebook, WhatsApp, Twitter… made it possible to make friends all around the world without moving. You can join the numerous online groups according to your hobbies, work.
RECONNECT WITH OLD FRIENDS: You can get in touch with old friends. If you are feeling lonely, nothing is preventing you from reconnecting with some old friends with whom you lost contact. Nowadays, it is much easier to do that. You can reconnect through social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, whatsups.. type in their names, then follow or send a request.
DO NOT BE SHY: Shyness is not your friend, and one could say that being somehow shy is what makes you lonely in the first place. Shyness can prevent people from making friends. Do not hesitate to make the first step, the first gesture. Take the initiative; you can invite your neighbours for a cup of tea or someone you want to associate with, give compliments when you feel too, …
JOIN A BOOK CLUB: If you are a book lover, do not isolate yourself, you can join books club to share your passions with other books enthusiasts. Check with your local authority or google, you will indeed find a group nearby.
GO OUT OFTEN: To make friends, you need to put yourself out there. Take every opportunity to show out. Go out as much as you can, attend event such as a festival, concert… go to bars, clubs. You are probably to meet new faces and to make new friends.
The list goes on and on. There are a lot more ways to make friends when older. These ways include going back to school to be a mature student; find new hobbies to enlarge your chances; use dating sites to make friends; do some voluntary work; make friends with your colleagues; make friends with your children friends’ parents….. As you can notice, there are numerous ways to make friends. Just do not be shy, go for it. Do you know any other ways? Please share.